Shawna Potter

SHOW NOTES:

Host Shawna Potter talks to SkyDxddy about her song, “7 Years.” They also discuss capital T Trauma, social media’s effect on victim blaming, asking for the help you need, deciding whether to throw bricks or start writing music. You’ll hear a cute little dog whimper, and lots of talk about sexual assault, and the mental health effects that can come with it, like anxiety and depression, and learn some grounding techniques if you’re feeling anxious or activated. It’s a beautiful, raw discussion not to be missed.

The official sponsors of this episode are First Defense Krav Maga, and Pupcakes and Pawstries, where you can use promo code waronwomen15 to get 15% off your next order.

Episode transcripts, important links, and ways to support Shawna and this podcast can be found at shawnapotter.com. Everything War On Women can be found at linktr.ee/waronwomen. For bonus episodes, behind the scenes content, and the chance to make special requests and get shoutouts on air, become a patron at patreon.com/shawnapotter.

Thanks to Brooks Harlan for chopping up War On Women’s song “Her?” to create the podcast theme song. Main podcast photo: Justin Borucki. 

SPONSOR LINKS: 

https://www.firstdefensekravmaga.com/

https://pupcakesandpawstries.com/

SHOW LINKS:

“7 Years” official video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y3mHhgy2L00

Grounding Techniques:

Frozen orange - https://elm.umaryland.edu/elm-stories/Elm-Stories-Content/Stress-Management-During-the-COVID-19-Pandemic.php

Box breathing - https://www.webmd.com/balance/what-is-box-breathing

101 different techniques - https://www.beautyafterbruises.org/blog/grounding101

The Body Keeps the Score - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Body_Keeps_the_Score

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SHOW SCRIPT:

Welcome to But Her Lyrics...the show where we delve into the meaning and politics behind the songs of artists you love or are discovering for the first time.

I’m Shawna Potter, singer and lyricist for War On Women - and your host. I wanna thank all my patrons who voted for me to release this episode as the first of 2024 - great choice! Huge trigger warning, just general sexual violence, addiction, self-harm, mental health talk, etc etc. 

Today I’m talking with Sky, aka SkyDxddy, a self-described Trauma-core artist about, well, about processing our shit. Right, that’s what it comes down to. Going from bad coping mechanisms to good ones, and how the journey to healing after something traumatic like a sexual assault, can look different for everyone. And if you’re like me and you believe that journey benefits from the help of trained professionals, then you can join me in pushing for truly universal healthcare, more funding for mental health services, and working towards reducing the stigma of receiving mental health care. And hopefully today’s interview helps with that. At least the last bit, but first!

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If you wanna shout out yourself or someone you love, join my patreon as a Demon, the $10 level or above and I’ll mention nearly anything you want on the show. I also want to shout out our official sponsors, First Defense Krav Maga and Pupcakes and Pawstries. Links in the show notes, check them out. And big thanks to Melissa, Meatheads Stephan, Zacharie, Byron, Isaias, and Hunters Andris, Tim, Kevin, and Lauren. This podcast would not exist without you, that’s for sure, and your support has enabled me to stay focused on my current transitional career phase as I solidify myself as an Intimacy Coordinator. So thank you! And you, listener, can support me, this podcast, my dog Rosie, who deserves all the treats she can eat, you can support the whole family by subscribing to my patreon or if you work in film and tv, hire me! I’m available. Alright, pitch over.

Next up, first interview of 2024, artist SkyDxddy, not to be missed.

[INTERVIEW TIME]

[interview transcript otw]

Thank you Sky for joining me, for being so open about what you’ve gone through. I long for a day where it’s no longer necessary to explain how trauma affects the brain, I long for a day when people get the help they need when they need it, no stigma attached, but in the meantime thank you to everyone that shares their story. Keep listening to hear SkyDxddy’s song “7 Years” in full. 

You can support this podcast by liking my youtube channel, and sharing, subscribing, and reviewing But Her Lyrics.. Wherever you get your podcasts - it’s free and it helps. To find episode transcripts, or to find out more about what I do, my book, my trainings, my patreon, head to shawnapotter.com

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LYRICS

“7 YEARS”

Once upon a time I lost my mind

It’s been seven years since I saw you

Wonder what poor soul you moved onto

Ooh tell me why do I still feel you

They told me that this skin would be brand new

But that’s not true

I still feel you all around me

Pull the trigger heart is pounding

I can’t take this part of life

My mental health has been declining

Horror movie on rewind

I can’t go out with you tonight

I got a date with cyanide

Talk about social suicide, Oh

It’s been seven years since I saw you

Wonder what poor soul you moved onto

Ooh tell me why do I still feel you

They told me that this skin would be brand new

But that’s not true

Mеdications my new best friend

Oxys mixеd with shots of captain

Couch hoppin’ by seventeen

My body used as currency

Drugged up every single day

And nothin’ makes it go away

Drugs just help temporarily

And honestly it’s scaring me

It’s been seven years since I saw you

Wonder what poor soul you moved onto

Ooh tell me why do I still feel you

They told me that this skin would be brand new

But that’s not true

Fuck your family you know you robbed me

Called your slaughterhouse a party

Told the boys "yeah she’s so naughty"

Rip my former body

Golden boy fueled by achievements

Looks are so goddamn deceiving

I’m the proof yet you believe him

They see an Angel, I see a demon

It’s been seven years since I saw you

Wonder what poor soul you moved onto

Ooh tell me why do I still feel you

They told me that this skin would be brand new

But that’s not true

I am the monster you created

Come and watch me feed

You can run

But you can’t hide from me

7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, RUN